Have you tried to do something you weren’t excited about and found that it was very difficult to follow through? Do you drag yourself to work because you loathe what you do?
Maybe what you feel is not that extreme, but feeling lack lustre about things that you spend a lot of time doing is very unfulfilling. Being passionate about something is the wind you need for your sails to drive you. You are very fortunate if you work in an area for which you are passionate. But what if you don’t? It’s not practical to just quit your job or get a new one.
The way you continue to be motivated and get fulfillment is to immerse yourself in something else for which you are passionate when you are not working.
A woman with a great hobby can be happy even if she doesn’t like her work. In fact, I would go further to say that it is hard to feel fulfilled if you don’t have something that keeps you going outside of your work even if you love your work. The thing that keeps you busy cannot be taking care of your family. In the context of improving yourself, family time is considered a built in part of your life and an additional responsibility that does not count as a hobby or passion.
Here are some easy questions to ask yourself to uncover your passions.
What do you do outside of work?Think specific details. If your first thought is: “spend time with my family”, then picture what you would want to do if all your other tasks are done (like homework, dinner, laundry, etc.).
What is the one thing you do whenever you get a spare moment to yourself? Imagine the bliss of having no one around and everyone’s needs are met. What would you do?
What makes you feel excited? Think in the context of having all your responsibilities taken care of and you have a completely clean plate. What kinds of things would excite you in that moment?
What makes you feel confident? You may find that talking, writing, singing or art makes you feel this way. These would be things that seem to come naturally to you and are not a struggle.
What would you do if you weren’t earning money from it? If money were no object and you had way too much to spend, what kind of project would you engage in? Is there a cause you wish you could contribute your time to? Would you start baking signature desserts for your community?
What makes you smile? All the things that make you smile are things that you love and enjoy doing.
Go through this list and write down your answers. From here you want to see if there is one thing that gets repeated again and again. If so, chances are this is an area of passion. It’s that one thing you love to do or want to do whenever you can. Once you find it, see how you can develop it and spend more time with it outside of your work and home responsibilities.
But I don’t have time for anything else – what’s the point?
Even if you are at a time in your life when you don’t have much extra time to spend on your hobbies, identifying your passion(s) can be very satisfying because you learn something about yourself. It reinforces your own identity that extends beyond your responsibilities to others (such as you have with being a mother, wife, employee, business owner, etc.). It also gives you something to dream about; that happy place you can go to that’s all your own. You can think about how you will chip away little by little in your efforts to spend time executing your passion. The time will eventually come when you can press the “start” button on your hobby/passion and you’ll be all set to go because you’ve been dreaming about it in your spare time.